Eleanor, I think that you would find the level of awkwardness that consumes me here on a daily basis to be most amusing, could you stand the scenes I endure without bursting your appendix from laughing so hard. I seem to be singularly superlative at attracting the weirdest conversations, not the cool and interesting ones that other students have with taxi drivers and passersby. And so I would like to present you with a few of my most random encounters with "the natives."
1. I was walking back from dinner one night, and I entered Beida through the West Gate. A small crowd of school-age Chinese kids, perhaps around seven or eight, was walking towards us. Suddenly, one girl ran up to me, thrust a flower into my hands, said "Hello!" in a very bright voice, and ran off with her laughing friends, leaving me to throw a bewildered "Thank you" at her retreating back. (This was all in English.) I must admit that the flower was rather lovely and smelled nice, though Scott and Kenina joked that it was probably full of poison to kill me. It was actually a lily, which my tutor Liu Fen told me is a popular flower to give in China; I told her in many Western cultures it is the flower of death.
2. On the subway one afternoon going to Xi Dan, it was chock full of people like any normal cattle car, or subway train, is. I was awkwardly holding onto a handle when a guy behind me said, in English, "Change," gesturing that I should take his handle and he mine for a more comfortable situation for both of us. After this maneuvering, his friend, standing next to me, said something that I didn't understand. The following is the conversation, roughly transcribed and roughly translated from the original Mandarin:
Me: I don't understand.
Guy #1: (the one who initiated the handle-switching) It was English.
Guy #2: Haha.
Guy #1: His pronunciation is so bad you don't understand. (mumble mumble)
Me: (uncomfortably) I can't hear you.
Both guys: (laugh)
Guy #2: Where are you from?
Me: America (a land of hot dogs, air-conditioned subways and cold bottled water).
Guy #2: What are you doing here?
Me: I'm studying at Beida.
Guy #1: (blah blah something I don't understand)
Me: ...
Scott: (coming to my rescue, having understood and apparently tired of laughing at me) We're here for two months.
Guy #2: Oh. Looking for friends? (找朋友?)
Me: (acutely uncomfortable at the way they only come up to my shoulders, invade my personal space and haven't stopped staring at me) Er, no, not looking for friends. This is my stop. Bye!
3. This one has only been related to me tonight, as I was not entirely aware of its happenings. We were at an overpriced club the other night, and I was dancing (startling, I know, but I figure no one in China could possibly know me). Later I was told that there was a strange Chinese man (also incredibly short and apparently looked not unlike my two subway friends) standing behind me, dancing, and watching me as if he wanted to approach me. You have to watch your back in those places, my friend; they like to approach and attack from the back.
4. I must admit the following interaction was mostly not directed towards me, but rather to Jenn, who as you know is of Chinese heritage and speaks the frustrating language fluently. We were strolling about the Purple Bamboo Garden when a man walked up to us and said (mumble, mumble). Yes, obviously I understand Beijingers so well. We just walked on, having mumbled something ourselves, thinking he was trying to sell something. It wasn't until he came back up to Jenn that she realized he had tried to say "Good morning" in English. He then asked her how to say 画 in English (painting). She told him, and as we were walking away he followed again and asked for the word "draw," and asked her to write it for him.
Fifteen minutes later, and halfway around the lake inside the park, he came up to Jenn yet again and asked for "painter," "artist," "to paint," and other things that she patiently pronounced and wrote for him.
Another ten minutes later, he came up to us yet again and said, "Good morning." Bemused, we said "Good morning" back (it was four o'clock in the afternoon). He then asked in English, "Where are you from?" I panicked and looked at Jenn who said "Answer him." I kind of mumbled, "America." And he repeated, "America," as if committing it to memory before rambling off.
I must admit that the rest of my time in the park I was waiting for him to appear from anywhere--emerging from the lake with a bamboo tube he used as a periscope to locate us; from climbing over a wall separating us from the city, having taken a taxi to the other side of the park following us; from the sewer grate a few paces to my left. Alas, that was the last of our conversation.
5. The following, by far the most uncomfortable interaction that in fact prompted me to write this to you, just happened as I was walking back from the cafeteria tonight. I heard a voice behind me going, "Excuse me, miss!" so I moved out of the way, thinking it was just someone on a bicycle for once considerate enough not to try to run me over. Then I heard another, "Excuse me!" and Trevor told me to stop. There was a Chinese woman who, completely ignoring Scott and Trevor, walked up to me and asked, "Are you American?" Prepare yourself, my friend, for another roughly transcribed conversation, though this one took place in English:
Me: Yes.
Her: Oh, what... um, city?
Me: Atlanta.
Her: I am working. I am looking for an English partner to speak English. And you can practice Chinese. My major is... is European and American (something mumble mumble).
Me: Oh. Um.
Her: Are you free right now?
Me: Um, I have homework, um.
Her: Oh you have class tomorrow?
Me: Yes.
Her: Every morning?
Me: And evening. (This is a complete lie.)
Her: Oh, oh.
Me: Um, do you have an email address? (Hoping that she would give it to me and I could conveniently lose it.)
Her: No. Do you have a cell phone?
Me: (inward groan) Yes, but, um, I don't know the number. I just bought it.
Her: (having completely not understood me) I can give you a call.
Me: (completely caught, and being laughed at silently by my dinner companions, I pull out my phone and give her my number. She calls me.)
Her: You have my number?
Me: Um. Yes. (here I glare at my phone as if it's its fault.)
Her: How do you spell your name?
Me: A-l-i-s-o-n.
Her: Alison. I'm (name I don't remember).
Me: Um. Okay. Talk to you later. Bye.
As I walked off, being mocked by my useless compatriots about how I attract the weirdest interactions, I entered her phone number under the name "random girl." Perhaps it's rather rude of me, but I'm rather weirded out by the encounter, though I know it must take guts to approach someone like that. However, I already have a tutor with whom I speak Chinese, and this I know is a trustworthy and rather friendly girl set up for me by the program. Perhaps I shall meet with Random Girl once and then tell her that I must leave the country suddenly, my visa having inexplicably been revoked by the government.
I also must work on my lying to deflect uncomfortable conversations. I shall now practice the following: 我不会说英语,我是法国人 (I can't speak English, I am French). 我明天早上回美国去 (Tomorrow morning I am going back to America). Etcetera.
Of course, at the same time I must admit that I rather enjoy these encounters, however uncomfortable. For when not conducted in English (people speak English to me a lot, here) I can at least practice as best as my ineptitude will allow (remind me to tell you the story of ordering two dinners for myself, as I was rather frightened of the cashier). If only I could have normal encounters... but it's not like that happens in America, anyway. At least it's consistent.
Alison